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July 03, 2011


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Nice job, Evan.

Are you familiar with the Wordsworth poem "Surprised by Joy"? I thought of it while I was reading your tribute.

I didn't even know Deb and I am still shocked and stunned. In her memory and Dave's honor, I'm going to try to remember to tell people I love them more often.

I am not familiar, Laura, but heading over to the google.

I tend to think that Deb Whiting wouldn't have had a lot of regrets about how she interacted, how often she said I love you, etc. Everyone would do a few things differently, but Deb loved what she did and she always told people how much it meant to spend time with them. I don't have any concern about that aspect. She set the standard in that regard.

Great article Evan. Janet and I feel awful about this. We plan on opening a Red Newt 07 Cab Franc tomorrow to toast her life and legacy. Thanks again for writing this. Peace brother.

These words reverberate: "...but her ethos is thriving." Thank you for this article.

Beautiful article, Evan. She was the embodiment of the Emerson quote: "Do not go where the path may lead. Go instead where there is no path and leave a trail…"

And boy did she...

Great article Evan, you are a fantastic writer.

I am new to the Finger Lakes wineries and I just recently read the chapter and Deb and Dave in "Summer in a Glass". I was very heartbroken to hear the news of the accident that took Deb's life. Even though I did not know their names before, I feel in love with the Whitings' while reading their chapter. I wish I had been able to enjoy some Red Newt before, but I will definitely be honoring Deb and Dave on my next trip back to the Finger Lakes.

Touching tribute, man, amid terrible, terrible news. And I plan to buy some RN wine and join the cause.

Thanks for writing this.

Evan, I share so many of your sentiments. Your way of expressing them really touches people. Thanks.

I am particularly struck by your expression of anger. I can't shake the same exact feelings. They are feelings that don't get answered with a definitive one and so we carry on. But that doesn't mean I don't pause, shake my head with fury and bang down on tabletops.

Dave, the boys, the family and the whole Red Newt team deserve our attention and support as much as she deserved to live and carry on her great work. She was fueled by them as much as the farmers foods, the region and her passion for bringing people together.

Excellent piece. As Antoinette said, you've expressd so many of the thoughts and feelings I've had over the last few days. Thanks.

Beautifully written tribute to a woman I hand the honor of meeting at TasteCamp. The Tierce Wine Dinner will be unforgettable because of the wines, but more importantly because of the food. I can still taste those aspargus with caramelized bacon. :)

From what I know of Deb and Dave, from your book, from TasteCamp and from reading and listening to the countless stories she was a remarkable woman and what she did for the FLX region and the foundation that was laid because of the Newt will never be lost.

As you know, I deal with grief on a daily basis, it is one reaction that brings about many other reactions; Laughter, tears, pain, numbness and anger. Sure we can laugh as hard as we want,d cry as much as we need to, feel hurt and gaze into space for as long as we must and feel angry for a as long as it takes is perfectly fine. The important thing is to let them all happen.

As I said, I only met her once, but her death brought tears to my eyes as I am still going through the grief of my grandfather who died two months ago. But a smile came a cross my face knowing that my grandfather is now going to eat well in heaven.

Recently a family chose this for the back of their fathers's prayer card. It is a verse by Ralph Waldo Emerson. I don't know why but this came to my head while reading this. Apparently Emerson is resonating in others as well.

"To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty; to find the best in others; to leave the world a bit better whether by a healthy child, a garden patch, or a redeemed social condition; to know even one life has breathed easier because you lived. This is to have succeeded."

There is no doubt that Deb succeeded. Rest in Peace Deb.

Thank you for putting into words the feelings so many of us have about Deb's death. The Finger Lakes (and world) lost a wonderful visionary when her life ended. May her legacy live on in those she inspired.

The photo here - and all the others that have surfaced - are so incredibly evocative of Deb and who she was. I can stare at her image for minutes straight, and feel the joy of hundreds of memories tumbling over me.

Perhaps I'm still trying to hold onto the conceit that she is still with us. This is going to take all of us a long, long time, as it should with someone who touched us so profoundly.

I doubt that any eulogy can be better said. I have met Dave once, but never met Deb. I have seen her doing her cooking instructions at the Wine Fest and have enjoyed her exquisite cuisine at the Bistro. I am fully aware of what she meant to the Finger Lakes foodie scene.
There was a feeling of sadness that is usually reserved for close friends that overcame me when I first heard the news. Your article probably answered why. Thanks Evan.

Deb was a true original, RIP.

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Beautifully written, thank you! And I LOVE the idea of buying some Red Newt wine to show our love and support!!! Will do!

Beautiful tribute to your friend and colleague, Evan. I am so sorry for your loss, and I wish I had known her. I hope putting it on paper helped - words to paper become real and are never taken back. Eileen

Evan you were able to put into words what I have been feeling since last Friday. Thank you for your beautiful tribute to Deb. She was one of a kind and her spirit will live on in her family, friends and all who knew her. Laura

She is in a job where she is not happy, in a relationship and living at a place where she would like to be able to have some contemplation away from. The financial means to do so would be very helpful. Hence, when she got in touch she wanted to get into her flow and attract work opportunities, financial resources, and more.

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